From Resistance to Reinvention: Trusting God When It’s Time to Step Out

Have you ever felt like your life just doesn’t fit anymore?

Like a lobster in a too-tight shell, your old routines, roles, or rhythms just aren’t cutting it, and everything feels a little uncomfortable, a little scratchy, and a whole lot constraining. Maybe you've outgrown some parts of who you used to be, but you're not entirely sure what comes next. If that hits home, friend, you are not alone.

In this post, we’re diving into that in-between space—where you’re no longer who you used to be, but not quite walking fully in who you’re becoming. The resistance you’re feeling? It might be the best sign yet that you’re exactly where you need to be.

Let’s talk about why that tension matters, how to stop fearing it, and how to finally take that leap of faith that could change everything.

That Tight-Shell Feeling Is a Gift

Earlier this week, I read a story about lobsters. When a lobster grows, its shell doesn't stretch with it. At some point, it has to shed that hard outer shell to make room for a new one. For a short time, it becomes soft and vulnerable—but that’s the only way it can grow.

Isn’t that such a picture of what we go through in midlife?

We hit this season where we know the old ways of living aren’t working anymore. We want more freedom, more confidence, more clarity, but everything feels a little scary and vulnerable. Sometimes, we even question if we’re being ungrateful or impulsive. But what if that tight feeling is simply God letting you know: You’ve outgrown the old. I have something new for you.

Resistance Isn't Your Enemy—It's a Clue

You know that voice that says, “Who do you think you are?”

That’s resistance.

Every time you think about stepping into something new—a new look, a new career move, a new dream—that voice tries to hold you back. It will tell you that you’re being ridiculous, irresponsible, or selfish. But here's the truth:

Resistance shows up because growth is near.

Think about a workout. The muscle doesn't grow unless there's tension. It gets stronger because of the resistance.

I remember the first time I decided to start living boldly—to dress how I really wanted, not how I thought I was "supposed" to as a mom or wife or woman over 40. I felt like I was walking around in shoes two sizes too small. Everything felt awkward and vulnerable. But over time, I realized the resistance wasn't stopping me. It was shaping me.

The Bucket Mentality

Ever heard of what lobsters do in a bucket?

If one tries to climb out, the others will instinctively pull it back down. Resistance works like that too. It’s not always internal. Sometimes it comes from people who love us, but don’t understand what we’re trying to do.

You might have to lovingly explain that you’re changing—and that’s okay. You weren’t created to live small just to make others comfortable.

Growth is Uncomfortable—But Worth It

If you’re standing at the edge of something new and your heart is racing, you’re in the right place.

I call that the "roller coaster moment." Once you’re locked in and it starts climbing that first hill, there’s no turning back—but oh, the thrill on the other side!

God rarely gives us a roadmap. But He always offers us His hand.

"My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness."

—2 Corinthians 12:9

The Leap of Faith Isn't About Certainty

It’s about trust.

We often wait until everything is "figured out" before we move. But most of my biggest breakthroughs came before I had any clarity—when I trusted that the discomfort was leading me somewhere better.

Courage isn’t a mountain you climb. It’s 20 seconds of gutsy decision-making. That’s all it takes to step into a new beginning.

After the Leap: What Comes Next?

You shed the old shell. You stepped out in faith. Now what?

It’s time to build the new structure that will support this version of you. Just like a lobster forms a new shell, you get to create a new container for the life you're stepping into.

Here are some simple steps to get started:

1. Evaluate your current structures. Are your habits, relationships, and routines supporting the woman you want to become? Or are they keeping you stuck?

2. Set identity-aligned goals. Not just "lose weight" or "get organized," but goals that support your vision:

• Show up confident on video

• Say yes to bold opportunities

• Create a morning routine that prioritizes your joy

3. Let go of what no longer serves you. That might mean an old habit, an outdated mindset, or even a role you used to play.

4. Create a supportive routine. New routines are your new shell. Whether it’s journaling, morning walks, weekly planning, or check-ins with a coach—these build structure around your growth.

5. Build accountability. Find someone who knows what you’re stepping into and who will cheer you on when it gets hard.

You’re Not Meant to Stay the Same

Midlife isn’t a crisis. It’s a sacred opportunity.

You get to rediscover who you are. You get to reinvent how you show up. You get to stop waiting for someone else to give you permission to live boldly and joyfully.

The resistance you feel right now? It means you’re growing.

So let it be your reminder: this is your season to shine.

Ready for a Hand to Hold?

If you’re reading this and thinking, Yes! I want to do this, but I don’t know where to start... I’d love to invite you to book a free 15-minute Identity Call with me. We’ll talk about what you’re stepping out of and who you want to become. It’s a safe space to process your next step and start getting excited about your new season.

You can also join our free Facebook Group, where midlife women like you are learning how to live with confidence, clarity, and bold purpose.

You don’t have to go it alone.

Let’s make life beautiful again—together.

Much Love,

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