How to Love Your Summer Wardrobe Again: Style Tips for Women in Midlife

Let’s be honest. How many times have you stood in front of your closet, staring at shelves full of clothes, and muttered, “I have nothing to wear”?

If you’re like most women I talk to, it’s not because your closet is empty—it’s because it’s uninspired. You’ve spent money. You’ve bought what was “in style.” And still… it doesn’t feel like you. And don’t even get me started on summer clothes. Bathing suits, sleeveless tops, shorts, sandals—it can feel like a cruel joke if you’ve been living in cover-up mode for the past decade.

But here’s what I want you to hear today: your season of hiding is over—especially if you stick around with me long enough. I’m going to show you how to build a summer wardrobe that actually feels like you.

Because here’s the thing: fashion isn’t about following trends. It’s about expressing who you are. Clothes are like art—you’re the canvas. And if you’re trying to look like everyone else or dressing to disappear, you’re not going to feel connected, confident, or creative.

Let’s change that.

What “I Have Nothing to Wear” Really Means

Most of the time, when we say we have nothing to wear, what we really mean is:

• The pieces that used to excite us don’t fit anymore

• We’ve outgrown styles we once loved

• Our bodies have changed, and we haven’t adapted our closets

• We’re stuck in comparison or playing it safe

• We’re bored. Plain and simple.

That’s why summer can feel extra tricky. Summer fashion tends to expose more of our bodies—and when you’re feeling unsure, that’s the last thing you want to do.

But friend, let me lovingly say: Summer fashion is not the enemy. Shame is.

Style Is a Skill—Not a Superpower

Here’s the good news: Style isn’t something you’re either born with or not. It’s a skill. And skills can be learned.

I used to feel lost too. And now? I live in a travel trailer with a 12-inch-wide closet and get compliments all the time—even when I’m wearing the same handful of pieces on repeat.

How?

Because when you dress in a way that reflects your truest self—your colors, your shape, your personality—people don’t notice how much you wear. They notice how much you shine.

Let's Talk About Color

Summer colors are often marketed as bright, pastel, and bubbly. But if that doesn’t feel like you, don’t force it. Instead, choose your version of summer.

I don’t look great in typical summer tones, but I’ve found bold blues that remind me of ocean waves and swimming pools—two things I do love about summer. So I wear those colors and instantly feel connected, playful, and powerful.

Let your summer palette tell your story. Love citrus fruit? Maybe a pop of orange feels fun. Love gardens? Bring in some vibrant floral or deep greens. It’s less about fitting in with trends and more about dressing in colors that connect with your soul.

Comparison, Body Shame, and the Lies We Tell Ourselves

Now let’s hit the tender spot: the way we feel about our bodies in summer clothes.

There’s nothing like a trip to the fitting room to make you want to hide under a maxi dress forever. But let me offer this truth: You don’t need to shrink your body—you need to stop shrinking your presence.

Summer style doesn’t have to mean baring it all. It just means finding clothes that feel like freedom.

Freedom to move.
Freedom to be seen.
Freedom to show up as your full, radiant self.

If you want to spice up your marriage, apply for a new job, or just reconnect with the woman you see in the mirror—how you dress matters. Not because of what other people think, but because of how you feel when you look in the mirror and smile back at yourself.

Basic Summer Fashion Tips for Real Women

Here are a few practical things to consider as you shop or reimagine your closet this season:

1. Embrace breathable fabrics
   Think cotton, linen, and blends that let your skin breathe. Feeling comfortable is step one to feeling confident.

2. Look for flattering necklines
   Scoop, V-neck, or boat neck tops can draw the eye up and highlight your face. Pick what feels best on your frame.

3. Balance exposure
   If you’re not comfortable in shorts, try a flowy midi skirt. If sleeveless tops make you self-conscious, go for short flutter sleeves or light layers that still let the breeze in.

4. Don’t skip accessories
   A bright earring, a cute bag, or even a colorful sandal can make basic outfits feel finished—without adding heat.

5. Try before you judge
   Be open. Sometimes we “hate” styles we’ve never actually tried on in the right fit or fabric.

6. Stick to your palette
   Once you find your best colors, you’ll stop wasting money. Everything in your closet will start to go together.

Confidence is your best accessory
It’s cliché for a reason. When you feel good in your skin, people notice—no matter what you’re wearing.

Style Is Not About Perfection—It’s About Connection

At the end of the day, summer fashion isn’t about covering up, shrinking down, or blending in. It’s about celebrating the woman you’ve become.

Your clothes should connect you to yourself and the people you love. They should help you step into the life you’re creating, one full of purpose, joy, and beauty.

So go find that one outfit that makes you feel like dancing, even if it’s just a sundress in your backyard. Let it be the start of a closet you love and a confidence that doesn't fade with the season.

Want help finding your style?

I’d love to help you crack the code for your personality and body type. Style is a skill—and I’ve made it simple for you. Reach out for a style coaching session and let’s build a wardrobe that reflects the real you. 

Cheering You On,